Hi all, some of you might remember that I came over to UK in 2016 on my Bonny, to attend the first GMU and my cousin John came on the ride-out on his quad. Sadly I've just heard from his son that John passed away last week, taking his own life. His mother passed away just before last Christmas. He had been her carer for many years and it obviously hit him very hard. John was a biker and a thoroughly good bloke and it breaks my heart that he felt so low and alone to do this. I tried many times to get him over to my place in France to give him a good time but alas never came off and now it's too late. Be happy now John, Your pal always, Dave
Reading something like that makes one's own issues and problems pale into muuch more realistic proportions. I am genuinely saddened and feel every possible sympathy for you and for your immediate and extended family. You're absolutely right to suggest that we should be happy now - you never know the moment. Sincere condolences and best wishes to you. Regards, Adie
So sad to hear this mate, dealing with the aftermath of suicide makes the grieving process so much harder for the family, my thoughts are with you and yours.
Dave. It saddens me to hear this news. Even worse to hear that one of our Brothers felt so low. And I know how it is when we lose our Mum. Last New Year I was in a bad place like wise. But my Family and you and you Guys kept me going. My deepest condolences to the Family and your self. May God keep you all strong. And My Bro's I know we all get there sometimes. But this is what this Family is all about talk to us we feel you pain and will stand with you. God Bless Joe.
Thank you Guys, I've just had to share the news with my sister which wasn't too easy I can tell. Just drafting an e-mail to John's son Tim, -difficult to find the right words.
Dave. Its one of the hardest things you will do. But while you sit there feel that Hand on your Shoulder I don't have to tell you who that is mate. And if there one on the other Shoulder well it all of us there with you and we will carry you till you get strong again. Tell you Sister if she need to talk then come on here we will comfort her all night if need be like wise your self. God Bless you All Joe.
Sorry to hear you're sad news stay strong and no that he is in a better place watching over you and all his family. Tucker
Sad news indeed Dave, As you say his mam passing left a terrible void in his life, its very easy to get into a routine when only the slightest of things(never mind losing your mother) can change everything for you. RIP John, My thoughts go out to his family.
Sad and sobering indeed. My thoughts goes out to you and any other forum member who has faced this awful situation. 3 out of 4 suicides are men, with over 4300 men taking their life last year, highest amongst those 45 years old and over if you are struggling to cope, you can call Samaritans free on 116 123 (UK and Ireland), email [email protected], or visit the Samaritans website to find details of the nearest branch
Tell him of all the GREAT things you can recall of your cousin; of all the good times you shared and all the memories you'll treasure. Tell him that he won't ever be that alone if you've got anything to do with it, and that he should never let his feelings get into such a dark place. Tell him that the darkness your cousin knew wasn't a dead end - it was a tunnel that had light at the end of it that he just couldn't find without some help that you would have loved to have provided. Tell him you care and feel for his loss and you need him to be strong. And tell him you love him the way your cousin loved his mother. Tell him just what's in your heart, not your head. That'll be what your cousin would want him to hear. And good luck. Adie
Agree with all previous posts - one of my great friends took his own life. I found myself asking questions that I will never find the answer to. All the best to you and all affected by this loss.
If I EVER think of leaving this place, I need to remember all your kind, sincere and thoughtful words and wishes. You guys are the VERY BEST.
Really sorry to hear your news, I lost my dad earlier this year and know how devastating it is, my heartfelt condolences to you and everyone concerned.
Sad news indeed. Suicide always seems so wasteful. I've had two brother-in-laws go that way and me and my first wife asked the first one to commit suicide to come and live with us as we knew he wasn't happy. Sadly, he turned us down. You have my sincere condolencies Dave.
So sorry to hear your sad news Dave. Try and be strong at this tragic time and remember we’re all here by your side.
Sad news indeed Dave mental illness is the worst problem you can have the brain is so powerful and rules over reason
@thebiglad Yes I remember that day with him on the Quad!! What a sad shame. We’re not long on this earth as it is without ‘cutting corners’. Eric
Sad news Dave - really sorry to hear about John. I remember sitting with you two in the Royal Oak discussing the differential he'd designed and fabricated for the quad. Tragic.
