Hello everyone, I know it may seems strange or stupid to someone, but has anyone hidden the fact that they own a motorcycle to their full family? If yes how did it go? [I am not a kid nor I live with my parents] Thanksss
Not really, back in my 125 days I asked my Dad if I could go up to a 250, he said "over my dead body".....a few weeks later I turned up with a 650...he survived many years after that statement by the way. I had a mate who wanted a bike but his parents bought him a nice car on the proviso that he was never to get into bikes, it worked! On a lighter note I managed to hide a Toad in my bedroom for several weeks until my Mum heard it croaking in there...yes I was a child at the time!
That reminded me of the time I bought a new bass, I couldn't tell my wife because she would have flipped that I was spending money on myself...imagine her face when I opened the flight case at my next gig...she is now my ex wife
You don't have to actively tell them but don't hide away Do what you want, post what and where you want and if they happen to see it then it is their decision how they want to react to it but don't let it rule or restrict your life
HolaBlondie. Welcome to the family. Got one bit of advice for you. Sell the bike get a car. You should not be on a bike as you will be a danger to others. People who worry worry worry don't make good bikers just an accident waiting to happen. Regards Joe.
You liked and commented on her photo in the What Have You Been Doing With Your Triumph thread earlier
Come clean with your parents, then your conscience will be clear, the rest is up to them. Try and have more contact with them, once they are gone it will be too late.
I don't worry when I drive.. or at least I wasn't last time I checked I don't worry about my parents, I just would feel guilt if they would come to know, because they will never stop believe I am not retard and they will freak out 24/7 and since I am not a total piece of crap, I'd feel guilty for that. Also, if you had seen me driving a car, you would rethink your statement.. No one wants me to drive, I am too extreme apparently
Actually I saw this pic on FB and I thought it was a majestic chicken and it would made an awesome profile pic..
I believe Italy is great if you don't live there 24/7.. I never liked living there, good places, good food, but I didn't agree much with people.. So I am happy I moved..
When I was a youngster my parents were not that happy about me having a bike, but they got used to it. You need to do what is right for you.
HolaBlondie. You seem to be belittling yourself and don't need others to do it for you. If you want to ride a bike then do so stop fretting about who you might upset. My Mum till she passed away a couple of years ago begged me every time we spoke to get rid of the bikes. I just smiled and said I love you Mum. Show us a picture of this mean motorcycle. Just tap the upload a file button bottom right corner and let us see it. Also get your self booked on the next GMU and meet some other bikers. They all ride and most had the same statements from their loved ones. But this is your time your space live it as you want. We can't make that choice for you. Regards Joe.
You may have many motorcycles; friends; lovers; jobs and places to live in your life BUT you will only EVER have one set of (birth) parents! My advice, for what it's worth (not much, I'll admit) is try to make your peace with them while you - and they - are still able to do so and ask them to make their peace with you on the mutual understanding that you won't always agree on everything that they do, and they won't always agree on everything that you do in your respective lives. "LIVES" is (for me) the important word here. Don't regret the passing of your parents as strangers in your life. If they love you, they will learn to live with your passion for motorcycles; if you love them you will learn to live with their overbearing concern. But neither side can do that unless they are free, honest and open enough to talk about it. My parents NEVER wanted me to have motorcycles; NEVER ceased to tell me that they were dangerous; NEVER understood my obsession with them, but they NEVER told me NOT to have them or that I was some kind of retard for having them. Learn to live with your parents and they might just - eventually - learn to live with your chosen lifestyle.
Ok, maybe I failed in explaining myself.. I do ride a bike and it's been a year and few.. I ride alone and I ride with other people, I enjoy riding, is one of the best thing in my life, I would never go back on that. You for sure have/had a wonderful relationship with your parents and I am happy for you, I didn't/don't.. I run away from them because I couldn't stand them and their shenanigans anymore. Your mother worried about you getting hurt out of love, my parents worry because they think I am too stupid to do certain things and I of course will get hurt and be a burden. Now that they are old and far and I have grown up, I started to tolerate a bit more their way of being, but haven't totally accepted, this is why we communicate only on sms bases and few rare calls and I visit once a year for couple of days. They know nothing about my life but what I choose to tell them. Why I do? because i feel sorry for them, I understood that this is their way of life and their way of showing love and it's a take it or leave it. I did few things in the past and they harassed me, so I'd like not to go through that again, for my sake and their sake. I am not asking people to make a choice for me, I made my choice already, I am just asking if there are people in my same situation and if yes, how did they manage.
I am 59 and what I learned is: When I got married, I sold my bike because this and that and blá blá blá. Finally after 12 year and two small children, I got separated. Bought a bike instantly.....Some years passed and I got marriage again, with the same woman. New life, no more complains......So, just ride and enjoy. It is your life....And other funny thing......recently after 3 years without a bike, I decided to get back... Talked at home and no problem....Talked with my mother, 82 years old, and above no problems, she Bought a Speed Twin to me and T120 Black to my brother.....That is a real mother. I love her..
I have been sitting here reading this in the middle of the night. All I can say is open communication is the key to ALL human relationships. I have issues in my family. I am the "old man". I have grown kids. Two.of.them.are currently not.speaking to me. I do not approve of some things in thier life. It pisses them off that I do not approve, but they have to stand up for the choices they make. I hate it when people are afriad to speak up. You need to do the same thing. It is one thing to be afraid of what people think. It is far better.to agree to disagree and move forward. Again. Communication is the key to progress. ...J.D.
